When we married our spouse, most of us were full of hope and had an entire plan laid out of what our marriage would look like, and what our role as stepparents would look like…. What their bio parents' role would look like - seems funny doesn't it?
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The holidays can deplete us emotionally and we tend to beat ourselves up about our family dysfunction or that we didn’t have the perfect Norman Rockwell Christmas.
Well, be encouraged because neither did Jesus! Check out the video I did Christmas Eve morning on my blended family page to encourage some stepmoms about the chaos of the first Christmas.
I decided to write this series of posts becauseI got to a point in the last couple of years where I really had struggled with this long enough. I was tired of shaming myself for not doing enough, doing or saying too much, and constantly being in state of “limbo”.
As I've gotten older, I realize more and more how significant his presence was in my life. He was intentional in his parenting and took his role in our lives very seriously. He could have just had a civil relationship with us and left the labor of parenting to my Mom and Dad, but he chose to use his position in our lives to make an impact.
In previous posts, I've talked about how to be cohesive, or at the very least, civil with your kids' biological mother and that may have left some of you wondering "Well, what if she's not willing?". I'm so glad you asked! I want you to know that is how the majority of Stepmoms feel! Isolated… Continue reading What If I’m The Only One Trying?
I just wanted to quickly share this idea and suggest that it may be a great way to establish a bond with our new blended families or strengthen the bonds we already have. We don't have the boys every day of the week, so I'm going to leave one for each day, with the day… Continue reading Valentines day is for the lovers – lovers of the souls of others’ children
I'm here to tell you that you are not alone in feeling that way and to not measure your level of "success" against someone else's story. We all have our own story that will lead us to a peaceful place. Keep on keepin' on.
I had two little boys that liked to run and jump over things and then pretend to shoot at each other. I used to try and hover over them and make sure they wouldn't get hurt and it always ended in me screaming "I have to return you to your mother in the condition I found you in!". Do yall have any idea how terrifying it is to have two little lives in your hands that DON'T belong to you and the co-owner don't particularly like you at the time? That's stressful! Praise God it's not that way now.
From My Baby Momma to Me 🙂
Let me ask you something. If you have even a decent relationship with your own mother, if some stranger started behaving in a threatening manner toward her, would that offend you or cause you to be cautious around that person? I think a lot of us would down right act out if someone even looked at our momma sideways. Yet, I expected that my relationship with the boys should be completely separated from their loyalty to their mother.
...you hear horror stories about mother-in-laws, ex-wives, and new wives constantly. Movies, articles and blogs (like this one) have been made about these things. There are entire online communities dedicated to dealing with these types of relationships. Sadly, it's become a normal part of modern culture.